I was in the Denver airport a few weeks ago lamenting some changes in my life and picked up a book about “grief” written by two PhD’s in the Phoenix Scottsdale area. Their thesis in a nutshell was: Bad things happen to good people….once you are born into this world, the same can and will happen to you, your love ones, friends and family.
So what do you do about it when life’s challenges overwhelm you? Here’s the answer.
1) Never give up and succumb to despair
2) Get tougher and fight harder
3) Strengthen your resolve to get through it
4) Determination- never give up and do not look back but keep sailing with the wind, accept change in winds patterns and adjust accordingly
5) Trite as it may seem, keep your cup half full and hold your head up high. Remember no one can save or protect you, only you can take care of yourself.
I learned this lesson many years ago. Many of you may ask ” why me”. I have been there. Let me tell you why.
1) In 1973 tragedy struck my family and several immediate family members and kids were killed by an arsonist in a fire in Copenhagen;
2) In 1985 a second hardship happened when I woke up in the hospital after a series of collisions which caused me to lose consciousness and to undergo 12 surgeries over many years
3) In 2007 I lost two parents and, lastly,
4) In 2007 lost my partner to mental health issues.
What I have learned is that life is not fair and that you have to be strong, not to succumb to despair, tragedy and hardship. Learn to grieve a loss, an injury, a death, divorce but do not give up on life. It has a lot to still offer. It’s good to grieve and cry and let it out. Do not hold back.
As a personal injury lawyer and as an injured person, I learned that grief is part of life. We all must learn to grieve. It’s all part of the healing process. And boy have I shed many a tear.
Handling wrongful death and serious personal injury claims is part of this evolution. It’s not fair that you were hurt or that you have lost a loved one. No amount of money in a personal injury or wrongful death settlement will be fair or large enough to compensate you, or to make it worth while. It’s the roller coaster of life.
I am here to help you and share with you that I too have faced many an adversity and continue to face life’s curve balls, joys and uncertainties, all with open arms, knowing that we all have it in us to meet these challenges with determination and resolve. So off to take on this roller coaster ride called “life”!
Rob Kornfeld (425) 893-8989 Rob@Kornfeldlaw.com